Tempo Gain wrote:How many kids are going to make that choice though, to not go through with Confirmation in a family that cares. Even if a kid doesn't believe, they'll still go along not to rock the boat. The pressure would be huge. The real choice is independent of any of those ceremonies.
Which is why I'm totally against indoctrinating children at a young age.
Q: I am a Catholic but my husband is not. We would like to have our baby daughter baptized. Does it matter that one of us is not Catholic?
Baptism is the sacrament of initiation into the Church, and bringing children into the family of God through the Church requires parental consent, even if one of them is not themselves baptised.
The non-Catholic parent can have a part to play in the baptismal ceremony, and is free to choose the extent to which he is involved. Some questions he might choose to respond to, others he might choose to remain silent and have you answer.
These are indicative of the questions asked of the parents during the ceremony:
What name have you given your child?
What do you ask of God's church for N.?
The priest then says: 'You have asked to have your child baptised. In doing so you are accepting responsibility for bringing her up in the practice of the faith. It will be your duty to bring her up to follow Christ's teaching, by loving God and our neighbour. Do you clearly understand what you are undertaking?’
You are invited to profess your faith. Sometimes, you do this with the whole community.
Following this, and immediately prior to the baptism of your child the priest asks you: ‘Is it your will that your child should be baptised in the faith of the Church, which we have all professed with you?’
Parents are invited to participate in the ceremony in other ways. For example, either one of you holds the child. You are invited to trace the sign of the cross on the child's forehead. Either you or godparent puts a white garment on your child as a sign of being clothed with Christ and as a sign of Christian dignity. Either you or godparent lights your child's baptismal candle from the Paschal Candle.
At the end of the ceremony the celebrant blesses individually the mother and the father of the child.
All of this you can discuss with the celebrant during the preparation for the baptism.
ChewDawg wrote:That wasn't true when I received the sacraments in grade school. Because the Catholic education system was far superior to the public one, we had lots of other faiths enrolled in the school and Catholics that just didn't want to receive anything further. When time came for enrollment, it was a matter between the student and his parents. If anything, my parents didn't want me to. However,they let me choose. The Catholics aren't too evangelical so I wouldn't worry too much about brainwashing
Mucha Man wrote:From the Catholic enquiry centre:
Mucha Man wrote:Anyway, I'm with Chewie (I'm also another agnostic free-thinking product of the Catholic school system) that it's not much of a big deal and that a certain native awareness of religion is useful when one goes through life. Like it or not, most of the world's peoples are religious, and most of the world's art, music, history and politics is informed by religious belief.
My mother-in-law is a devout Catholic, and I can as much as bet she's going to be pretty insistent about a baptism for our unborn daughter.
Taiwan Animal SOS wrote:I say go along with it, much as many of us might join in with the saying of grace when guests for dinner or attending a church wedding.
Re. the lying: You don't believe in the person you're lying to, so it doesn't really matter. See it more as role-playing or acting for the sake of an important ceremony to welcome your child to the world and the family. Whilst I too am not religious, I do see the immense benefit in many religious ceremonies.
I was baptised Catholic; it means nothing to me (other than I was able to get out of certain school ceremonies on religious grounds ).
And congratulations by the way!
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