What would you do if an adult hit your kid at school(Update)

[Goose Egg]

I am pissed beyond believe!

Tonight I gave my son a shower only to find serious bruises on both his upper arms. I asked him what's that? He says the father of one of his classmate, came IN the school while he was playing in the courtyard and grabed him, told him not to use marker to write on his daughter's hand, which he says he didn't do (and I believe him), the guy says to him "I'll give you one last chance" and left.

I asked him why he didn't reported it right away to the teacher or called me, he said he was scared.

I called the teacher right away, she says she remember the father coming iin but hasn't seen anything. I ask her to give me the address of this guy and she will later tonight.

Now I am just trying to calm down here, I understand it's not a good idea for me to go there tonight because I might just BREAK BOTH HIS F@*&%@G HANDS
So, ohter options, go to the cops, show them the pictures I took tonight of his arms and complaint or get my wife to handle it.

OK, please...ideas options, I know I've got to do something, I am not letting this go, no F$#@#$g way.

[jdsmith]

Now I am just trying to calm down here, I understand it's not a good idea for me to go there tonight...

So, ohter options, go to the cops, show them the pictures I took tonight of his arms and complaint or get my wife to handle it.
OK, please...ideas options, I know I've got to do something, I am not letting this go,

OK. Your anger is justifiable. But, first, calm right down. You've got pictures. Your son's teacher is aware. Call the teacher back and tell her you want to speak to the school principal..tonight. Tell the teacher that you are considering going to the police and filing a report. Wait for the principal's phone call.

But please, do not go to the parent's house. What are you going to do? Kick his ass? Go to jail? Beat his kid up? Get my point? Think it out.

Anyway. Your son is ok. You've got your proof. No need to kick this guy's ass...yet. Let the teacher and principal do their jobs first.

And please, if it were me, I'd be just as mad as you are. This is not a time to let emotions get the best of you.

Peace and I'm glad your son is ok.

jds

[Josefus]

How did merely grabbing him result in "serious bruises"?

[funkymonkey]

But please, do not go to the parent's house. What are you going to do? Kick his ass? Go to jail? Beat his kid up? Get my point? Think it out.

Anyway. Your son is ok. You've got your proof. No need to kick this guy's ass...yet. Let the teacher and principal do their jobs first.

This is sound advice, jd. Igorveni, I understand your anger and going to this assholes house won't solve anything. In fact, it would almost certainly lead to you cracking his head open. It would feel good for a few minutes until the cops come and throw your butt in jail.
This is just me, but I would wait a day or two until I could calm down a bit. Then I would visit the father and calmly explain to him that if he hurts my son again I will visit him with a baseball bat. It would definately make him think twice before touching your son again.

*disclaimer: I do not normally advocate violence ,but this story really pissed me off.

[jdsmith]

How did merely grabbing him result in "serious bruises"?

Well, look, if he's giving his kid a shower...he's what? 4 or 5or 6 years old.

A grown angry parent grabbing and holding a little kid can cause bruising...easily.

[Josefus]

A grown angry parent grabbing and holding a little kid can cause bruising...easily.

Hmm..yeah I suppose. But I mean he'd really have to be wringing him like a turkey at thanksgiving. I mean I've grabbed kids, and I'm sure lot of other teachers have as well (I know, I know, I shouldn't) and i didn't leave bruises. That I know of.

[igorveni]

OK, JD and FunkyM, I know you are right, going to his house isn't solving anything, although it was the first thing that came to mind, my wife is calling the teacher and getting the principal's phone number, I am definitly going to the police and will file a report on that, it happened in the school for christ sake
Josefus, my son is 7, if an adult grab a kid and squeeze with enough force and it doesn't have to be much, you've got bruises, I can easely see the fingers marks on his arms.

[miso]

That is why I would not want my (yet to be born) kids attend school in Taiwan. If it's not the teachers, it will be some other parent, grand parents, uncles, aunts or neighbours...somebody will hit them someday and I would have to kill that person....

[bob]

There is no point in getting violent with the guy who grabbed your kid. It would only hurt your chances with the police and perhaps start a cycle of violence that could lead anywhere. For starters I wouldn't be so sure that if you go to his house he will be the one to get a beating. Fuckface and his five drunk buddies might just give you one.

Not sure why anyone is advising against going to the police right away though. Wouldn't it be better to make a statement while the bruises and the memories are fresh. It would also give you the feeling that you were "doing" something about the situation.

[jdsmith]

There is no point in getting violent with the guy who grabbed your kid. It would only hurt your chances with the police and perhaps start a cycle of violence that could lead anywhere. For starters I wouldn't be so sure that if you go to his house he will be the one to get a beating. Fuckface and his five drunk buddies might just give you one.

Not sure why anyone is advising against going to the police right away though. Wouldn't it be better to make a statement while the bruises and the memories are fresh. It would also give you the feeling that you were "doing" something about the situation.

Well Bob, he does have the pictures. Let the school officials do their jobs...and if it doesn't work out...Monday morning..police station.

That is why I would not want my (yet to be born) kids attend school in Taiwan. If it's not the teachers, it will be some other parent, grand parents, uncles, aunts or neighbours...somebody will hit them someday ....

I'm sorry, but this is outrageous and a gross generalization.