Had kind of a shocking conversation with my fiancee girl.
Background: She fully knows my financial background. Stocks, bonds, mutual funds, etc. I have a nest egg of money I have no intention of touching until retirement. I am not super wealth, nor super broke. She has been off and on work for the past year... ( recent graduate with a Doctorate degree). she wants to become a professor and the job opportunities are just not available at the moment. She is very book smart, but real world is like a complete mystery to her.
She has a current job the last two months... so I know what her salary is. She hates the job, but she is working... soon as a professor job opens... she is out. ( The past experiences show this... but ended up NOT getting the position.)
We had a discussion over money, and all of sudden she closed off the conversation.
She did not want to talk about how much money she has at all. I think it was out of embarrassment. but I really dont know. I am talking about as a nest egg, savings, that type of thing. She is more concerned with the prices of fruit at the moment. I stress she is not a spend thrift, she is very cautious with her money.
We just signed a lease on an apartment, and based on her current financial situation... it seems that eventually all financial matters will need to be handled/paid by me. I am not looking for a roommate situation, dont think that.
But, I was expecting to have an open conversation about money... and now it seems like a potential kiss of death to us.
wth do I do?
I have enough money to cover the rent for 2 years living like a pauper. But I really do not want to have that type of lifestyle where we cant do shit, but watch TV, video games and walk to the park. I love to travel, and now.. I think one of my feet has been caught in a snare. Things can improve if she becomes a professor, but I just dont see the fire in her to get that job. She doesnt network, or join any associations which I assume exist. She only exists on a resume... that when I read it.. I was floored on how parts of it sounded unprofessional . ( though my background is in sales, not education.)
No kids, btw. Nor do we want them ( her more than me.)
Anyone else been in this situation. Not expecting to get an solution online.
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